Just yesterday I was thinking about how hard it is to talk about our biases because so often they are invisible to us. When someone tries to point them out - we can't see them and so we get defensive. How to over come that was the question I was struggling with.
And then along comes this exchange between Joe Scarborough and Mika Brzezinski (esp starting at 5:30).
I know Joe couldn't see what he was doing. But can any honest observer NOT see how he wouldn't allow Mika a moment for a dissenting opinion? Even when she managed to get a word or two out - he belittled and mocked her. Of course, in his world, anyone who disagrees with him is only doing so out of some misguided (ie, childish) loyalty to President Obama...not because Mika happens to see the situation from a different (ie, adult) perspective.
There was not one shred of curiosity about how - as a woman - she might see the situation differently than he does. Instead he did everything he could to shut her up and shame her.
I'll give Mika some credit, she tried to do what Jay Smooth suggests when it comes to calling out racism. Instead of calling Joe "a chauvinist," she said that how he was handling himself in that situation was chauvinistic. Notice how Joe keeps trying to bring it back to "How DARE you call me a chauvinist!" As long he can defend that territory, he assumes that he doesn't have to deal with his particular behavior in this incident.
In the end, Mika wasn't successful in helping Joe see what he was doing. But what I'm hoping is that people who watch this will recognize what's happening. The next time someone says you did something chauvinist or racist or homophobic, think about NOT responding the way Joe did.